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I give you this image....this is to the people out there with no maners
This is a huge long post I found the other day that I had written to contfront people with terrible maners. It's frrom maybe a year or so ago. Anyone that has seen me break some of these can't say I've done it in the last few weeks or months.
Addressing others, especially those older than you, in the proper fashion, "Yes sir", "No sir", referring to them as "Mr Smith" until invited to do otherwise.
Always important and is the main one that bothers me about people introducing themselves anymore
Gentlemen are to remove their hats when indoors or eating, or during prayer or during the national anthem. I cringe when I see grown adult men in worship wearing a ball cap.
I see it as proper that you remove a hat or tobogan or anything covering our head. Wearing a hat is a sign of disrespect..here is an article I found on it...
Etiqute:The 21th century
To the best of my knowledge, the practice dates back to the me of knights wearing armor. After battle, the knight, a male, would enter the castle to meet the King. The helmet, of course, would always be removed before approaching the King. Women during this time wore hats for decorative purposes and these hats were never removed.
Today, it is generally accepted that men always remove hats when inside. Women, on the other hand are generally not required to do so.
moving on...
An entire post (possibly an entire web site) could be composed for cell phone courtesy. You are NOT that important, turn the dumb thing off during church and in restaurants.
I swear to all that is holy if I have to tell someone to turn off their cell phone during a movie or during diner I'll kill them. In a movie I'll get a manager to escort them out of the theatre; that's why they have a silent feature. If the call is that important when you are eating. Politely excuse yourself from the table and take the call in an isolated area, most preferably the bathroom, of the place where you are, never go outside; it is bad maners to take more than one call during your diner.
Gentlemen are to open doors and give up seats to ladies.
This is another one that pisses me off to no end. I see so many guys that lack this now-a-days. I always try to open the doors for a girl/lady and if a gentleman is behind her than I'll hold it for him. I wil always try to open the car door for a girl/lady. I used to be in the effect of giving my seat up to a girl/lady, but most of the ones I know actually prefer sitting on the floor.
Dress appropriatly for the occasion. You don't have to live in a suit and tie, but you don't have to show up for a wedding or a church service looking like you crawled out from under a rock. Flipflops, frayed jeans and a faded t-shirt may be the style, but may not always reflect respect to the people that encounter you.
This one isn't really a problem for me. I'm almost always in a Formal style(slacks/dress shirt and a tie), but even when I'm not I'm dressed properly. I'll never wear old or frayed clothes to anything. I find it to be a bad statement of your respect for the other parties in your group if you are dressed improper. Guys can wear slacks/pressed jeans(with a sport coat) and a dress shirt, but are not required to have a tie at a bussiness casual affair. Formal/Bussiness attire for a gentleman is a coat and tie and I don't mean a bomber jacket or a puffy raiders coat; I mean a suit coat or sport coat.
All I'm saying is to have some respect for the people that you are around. If you are just chilling with the guys, then jeans and a t-shirt is appropriate but not for a church service, Wear a polo or some type of dress shirt even if it is not tucked in.
Resist the urge to leave a worship service. (Go potty before the service). If an emergency does arise, leave as quietly and unobtrusivly as possible (preferably during a song). Use the doors in the back of the auditorium.
I find myself guilty of this one. Unfortunatly I can't go more than an hour without a ciggarette, so I find myself dismissing myself once to go take a break. I've tried to do it other ways, but I get a headache if I go for more than that. I've gotten to an hour anda half now, so I'm doing better.
If your child cries, babbles, whines, becomes restive and or distracting during church, drag the little urchin out to the lobby. Don't just sit there like a stump acting like you don't hear the brat.
I have a quirk about children; I don't like them. They are loud disrespectful and tey cry a lot if they don't get their way. One instance at a store where I was waiting in line the lady behind me had two children and chose to ignore the fact that they kept fighting over a book and bumping me in the calf/knee area of which were bruised from fighting. I kindly waited paitently untill she left to go to the restrom leaving her kids to hold her place in line and mentioned to them in a soft, gentle, and loving voice that if they hit me one more time I would throw them out the window. To this they replied that they didn't have to listen to me; I wasn't their parent/boss. When I stood up to full size, cracked my knuckles, and gave them a scowling look; they stopped moving and stood completely silent the entire rest of the time. They didn't taddle on me like I asumed they would when their mother returned. I have a feeling that they won't be as disrespectful next time they have elders tell them to do something.
I guess this one also reflects the other one about lines.
Line cutting, pushing, etc is in very poor taste.
I guess you could call me old fashioned, but I prefer being this way and being respected by my elders than to be ignored as a "stupid punk kid"
And I find Truthseeker's comments to be very disrespectful of the man in which he refered. If you have any respect for your elders thn you wold have removed your hat and excused yourself to the bathroom, wet your hair down, and styled it somehow. It can be done I've done it before. I was taught to always respect my elders and betters. As long as they are right then it doesn't matter what you think.
Some other Issues I'd like to address, but I know they are not going to effect many;if they effect anyone at all.
When you step outside to someone smoking and are a non-smoker. Do not make any comments about their smoking. They are being kind enough to excuse themselves from the group to indulge their habit. If you wish to talk to them then do so in a respectful manner and try to stand upwind of them if possible so that the smoke does not effect you if you do not like it.
I cannot count how many times I have gone out away from people to 'light up' and have been followed by people that come to simply tell me that 'smoking is bad for you', 'That it is a nasty habit', or to make other comments about it. I found it to be the opposite when I smoke my pipe. I usually use a Vanilla-Rum tobacco and I'm huddled around by a group of peope who love the smell. If you find the smell of any smoke to be 'disgusting', 'unpleasant', or any other number of things then step away without making any comments. If you are in a group of ciggarette smokers, then ask if it is alright for you to light a pipe or cigar around them. It is considered to be bad maners to light a different type/form of tobacco around someone that is a regular smoker. If it is okay with them; light the pipe or cigar downwind of them, not upwind because pipe/cigar smoke is thicker and generally is not un-pleasant to them, but can be annoying if it gets in your eyes[it can make them water a considerable amount].
When speaking on the Telephone use proper english and do not interupt unless completely neccisary.
It seriously bothers me when I'm talking to someone on the phone and they do not answer with a formal address; such as: "Hello, Greene Residence, May I ask who's calling?", or "Green Residence, Whom am I speaking with?". They instead refer to "What do you want?", or "Who's this?".
When you have a name, if they are not calling for you then reply; "Yes let me check to see if they are in. Would you hold for a moment?", or "They are busy at the moment. May I take a message and have them get back to you?", instead of "They're not here. I'd try back later", or "I'm on the other line. Call back, later". If you have a call on the other line then the later of the formal answers is appropriate, even if the other party is availible. It doesn't state that you are choosing to talk to someone else, but you are curtious enough to relay a message.
If you work at a bussiness then you learn these things. One other thing is using proper english. Words like 'yeah' and 'ain't' are fine in a casual conversation between friends, but when your boss calls you then you don't say "Yeah I'll be in later, but it ain't going to be for a while"; it should be "Yes Sir, I'm otherwise occupied at the moment but I'll be there as soon as possible". Just use some respect when on the phone.
Yelling/talking loud in or across restaraunts, stores, or any other public area is not acceptable.
I don't know how many places I have been where I have had to ask someone to be quieter. Even in my own group I've had to ask people to respect the people around us when in a restaraunt. I find it to be completely rude to talk openley/loudly about or make sexually lude comments. I have done it before, but I usually appologize to anyone offended.
If you must relieve gas or burp, excuse yourself from the area!
I hate it when guys are around people and they just rip one. It's so disrespectful of the people around you. Not only does it stink, but it shows that you don't value your friends enough to be curtious.
The last one is this: Punctuality is next to Godliness
I can't stress this enough, BE ON TIME OR EARLY when meeting someone or to something!!! When you are late it reflects a poor statement of character on your part and shows your lack of respect for the other party(s) invloved. If you are late to a movie then someone has to move in order for you to take a seat. In my opinion if you are late for no reason other than to make an entrance then you deserve to get the crappiest seat availible. If you are purposely or accidentally late to a party and they have already eaten, unless some type of orderve/snack is availible then do not go and scrounge for leftovers; not only is it in bad taste, but it is also considered disrespectful to the host.
Drinks are to be respected and in moderation when it is an open bar
If drinks are involved then drink 2 drinks less than your limit; but if you have a high tolerance like me then limit it to three period, it is rude to drink all of someone's alcohol.If you plan on spending the night, then it is okay to have that last drink after dinner, otherwise take it as note not to do so. Last rule on drinks; if it is the last beer, then never take it. The host is the only one allowed to take the last drink of a sort, unless you are going to buy the next case/pack of it.
This is something else that I wrote like a few days later on the same subject.
"When you don't have manners, you have a sore butt"
That was always the motto in my house. I blame Liberal society and the Dr. Spock theory for our generations now. When I did something wrong my butt got beaten till I had some remorse. I turned out a bitter and angry teen, but I have hella respect for my parents. I don't go out and have sex, do drugs, party all night, or steal; all the things that the 'troubled' kids do. I respect my parents wishes of no alcohol in the house, call if I'm going to be out all night, smoke away from the front door so it doesn't get in the house, and not have any parties here.
I just don't understand how you could say that it does emotional damage to a child to spank them. That is the biggest load of poppycock I've ever heard. I got spanked and didn't turn out to be an emotionally troubled kid with a ton of mental problems and a fear for all adults because they might hurt me. SCREW THAT. I didn't commit arson, larson, or burglery; I haven't killed everyone at my school, because someone spanked me when I was younger. If I ever have kids then I'm going to spank 'em just like my parents did to me. This physcological 'huey that they spit out now days makes me sick. Understand their emotions, sympathize with them, understand where they are comming from. NO.. Beat their little behinds untill they know they did something wrong, don't injure them or abuse them, but a swift tap with a wooden dowel rod on the backside will straighten them up. Discipline is why I think people have no respect these days. Everyone is so concerned about themselves and what they can do for them that they forget the fact that thy are part of a society that somewhat works together.
The generations before ours, WWI, WWII, Vietnam, Korea, Panama, etc. Great Depression, Oil Crisis, etc etc..
No one has any idea how they have it these days. It's pathetic, People need to get off their couch when their child throws something and ground him....take something away...and if that doesn't work..a good old fashioned assbeating will do.
"Spare the rod, Spoil the child!"
...and that's what we live in
